Thursday, October 21, 2010

Insert foot in mouth: An etiquette lesson

We all know that once you become pregnant your family, friends, and total strangers open their mouths and say some of the most ridiculous things. But I will tell you I've been surprised by some reactions we've received to our announcement, I feel like I need to wear signs that say the following...

For those of you that can't comprehend the idea of having two children under the age of two, keep your thoughts to yourself. It may sound completely INSANE, and unmanageable, and awful to YOU, but obviously it doesn't for us. I'd really like to hand these folks a SHUT THE HELL UP sandwich. The snarky attitude and comments are grating on me and if I keep hearing more I will have a hard time containing myself.

For those of you that are surprised at the fact that we are pregnant "ALREADY" what rock have you been hiding under?! It is no secret that we have wanted a full house of children and that we wanted them all about 1-2 years apart. So take a little etiquette lesson, pick your jaws up off of the floor, slap a smile on your face, and squeeze out a congratulations. At least fake it for us because otherwise you're being incredibly rude.

And on that note, since when is it "odd" to have kids that are 18 months apart... I could literally rattle off over a dozen close relatives and friends whose children are 18-24 months apart. I'd love to pull up some statistics on it. It is actually very common, hence the term "Baby Bunching", the 2 Under 2 communities, chat rooms, blogs, and dozens of products for those of us having back to back babies. So stop looking at us like we have 3 heads.

I think what it comes down to is that people are so stuck in the way that THEY would do things that they can't imagine doing things another way therefore the other way must be WRONG, so they treat you like you're doing something awful....

You will never find me proclaiming that having 2 under 2 will be easy. I'm sure it will be hard work and feel impossible at times. I will be exhausted and fed up more times than I can count. But I will have twice the blessing, two kids that are so close in age that they are best buddies, I will be done with diapers sooner, I will have my body back sooner, and my kids will be grown and out of the house sooner!

And all that really matters is that WE are elated, we can't wait for our next little miracle, WE want this baby and will welcome it with open arms and delight, so in the end it doesn't make a bit of difference what anyone else thinks.

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