Saturday, January 16, 2010

De-Lurking Week: Answers to your questions!!

You asked and now I'll answer :) And I wanted to say hey to all of my new readers, nice to see you all on here!! Don't be strangers anymore!

How has your life changed since becoming a mother? I am still me and I work very hard to make sure that I STAY the same person that I was before, but I have a whole new dimension now. I truly feel a sense of purpose and I have a confidence that I never had before. I am someones MOM.... I mean that is pretty amazing... just going through the labor and delivery alone made me realize how strong of a woman I really am. I also feel such a sense of accomplishment knowing that I am a mother, it's the hardest job on the planet and I'm doing it!!

Life in general has become a lot more chaotic and a lot more tiring. But it is 100 times more amazing than I ever thought possible. It has made all of my flaws more apparent which isn't all that bad, it has made the weaknesses in all of my relationships a lot more apparent as well but I welcome it all as a learning experience. Our social life, time with each other, ability to get things done, everything has taken a back seat to raising this little boy but it's only temporary. I force myself to keep as much normalness as I can in everyday life, I refuse to stay locked up in the house just because it's harder to get out the door. I refuse to shy away from restaurants or shopping because I'm afraid of melt downs, afterall it's only inevitable so might as well get used to it. I am a firm believer that a baby needs to fit into YOUR life not the other way around so both hubby and I work very hard to make this happen. That doesn't mean that things don't change because they do but we are both committed to not losing ourselves now that we are parents and I think we're doing a pretty good job so far!

Your blog has a lot of misspellings :) Really?? Oh my gosh, I pride myself on being a really good speller so dang! I must be rushing to get things posted and not proof-reading, I only have so much time before the child starts screaming again lol. So sorry... :)

My question to you is will you follow my blog? Of course I will! I lose track of which blogs I've joined and haven't so if I've missed yours just shoot me a comment so I don't forget. I love to read about everyone elses chaos to make myself feel better about my crazy yet awesome new life and to know that I'm not alone!

How do you find time to manage two businesses, being a mom, and being a wife? Honestly the only thing I can say is that I just do it... I'm sure I'll look back and go "how in the heck did I manage that?" but somehow I'm doing it. It reminds me of going to nursing school. To this day I still have no idea how I managed the intensity, the lack of sleep, the chaos, I literally put my life on hold for YEARS to get through it. But somehow I managed...

I just try to take it one day at a time and with the colic sometimes one minute at a time! My grandmother always said you don't eat an elephant in one bite, so I'm just taking baby steps. I also think that certain things are going to suffer in your life when you go through changes. You make sacrafices. And I'm ok with making these sacrafices knowing that it's only temporary. My relationship with my husband has changed a lot, we don't have a lot of "us" time anymore we are both tired and have short fuses these days, and at times it's really frustrating and sad, but we both know that it's only temporary and that we will come out of this stronger than we were before. Same goes for our social life and the cleanliness of our house, they've all been put on the back burner. But it's only for a short while. So as long as I know that all of these things are just a matter of phases I will take it as it comes.

How is your battle with PPD going? The PPD seems to be a thing of the past, at least for the most part. I do have days here and there where I feel a little more moody and cry about some ridiculous things. But the anxiety and worry are completely gone now. The colic really tests me and the PPD... I don't know if what I'm feeling is normal for someone dealing with relentless colic or if it's bordering the side of PPD?? But at least I can keep my feelings in check now. Yes there are days that Holden is crying and I feel completely inadequate and have NO clue what to do so we cry together on the floor.... but I think this is normal for a new mom, I don't know anyone who could listen to crying 15 hours a day and not have melt downs! I have taken myself off of the anti-depressants and somedays I think I'm stupid for doing so and that I'm not totally better but other days I'm completely fine. So I guess I'm just learning to deal with it all on my own terms and I will have no problem admitting that the PPD is back if I get to that breaking point again. For now I am feeling really good though and I hope that it continues!!

Are you or have your gone back to work? Well technically I work from home right now. As far as nursing I am not quite sure what my future plans are.... I would like to think that I could do some per diem work or maybe even part time but I'm not ready to make that commitment yet.... I'm really busy with both of the businesses and Holden (obviously) so in order to return to the traditional work force out there it would mean sacraficing time from one or both businesses and putting Holden in daycare, neither of which I'm willing to do at the time. So we'll have to wait and see I guess! Not to mention that I have always vowed to be a Stay At Home Mom and I'm really commited to that idea since I didn't have that when I was growing up. I feel very strongly about being here for my children every day and not missing one minute of their childhood.

So thanks for coming out of the closet and asking more to get to know me ya'll!!

5 comments:

Noelle V said...

loved this post...i can relate to a lot of it!

Krystle said...

I have to lol @ the grammar police. I have spell checker on my web browser now, but I don't proof read. Half the time i'm typing with one hand on the side of the couch.
They get on my nerves.
You haven't added me =) realisticdreams from thebump.

Anonymous said...

I feel bad about calling you out on the misspellings :/ I was in a mood and took it out on your blog. Ignore me and keep up the good work (in case you're curious, you mix up plurals with possession - as in "for all the hubby's out there".....hubbies are plural so there is no "apostrophe s", just "ies"....). I have a degree in this stuff, it's kind of my thing. Sorry to call you out! Your blog is great so keep it up!

Brianna said...

Just out of curiosity (for a new reader) what are your two business. I can't figure it out easily...

Momma Maven said...

Hi! I own a maternity retail clothing line company and my husband and I own a home construction business.

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